My husband Joshua and I just celebrated our fourth (!) wedding anniversary! This week, I’ve been feeling sentimental about our relationship and our marriage, remembering just how much we’ve overcome and how God truly gave us one another. To be honest, Joshua and I have so much to celebrate because there were times our marriage neary fell apart, and I personally wanted to call it quits.
As a woman and mother to two girls, I believe that girls everywhere should be treated equally, empowered, and safe. This belief is deeply held, both for personal and biblical reasons. As such, I champion gender equality everyday and especially today, International Day of the Girl 2020. The theme for this day is “My voice,…
Some days I feel like I’m killing it, other days I can’t remember a thing (thanks pregnancy brain 🫠). With every pregnancy I learn something in a new fresh way. This pregnancy is all about rest in the deepest sense, even resting in my inabilities.
Thanks for the sweet comments yesterday. ❤️ It’s been a really trying journey, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
I’m 26 weeks pregnant (or, in my 6th month), and frankly, this pregnancy is still kicking my butt.
My first trimester and part of my second trimester were filled with terrible morning (all day) sickness and severe fatigue. Once the morning sickness subsided, prenatal depression stormed in. After experiencing postpartum depression with Honor, it felt like I was thrown back into the fire, but this time it was hotter. Facing prenatal depression plus a high risk pregnancy (along with all my normal symptoms of swelling, hormonal acne, feet aches, etc.) makes for a very trying ride, but thankfully my family, friends, and job have been very understanding and supportive.
A few things that help me:
* Rest
* Prayer time/quiet time
* Cognitive behavioral therapy with a Christian therapist
* Pastoral counseling
* Sunlight
* Time spent near the ocean
* Movies with my children
* Creative outlets like filming and photography
* Forcing myself to be open and honest about how I’m feeling with my doctors
It’s been a while since I’ve been vulnerable in this space, but I know I’m not alone in feeling this way — I wanted to share my experience in support of other preggo mamas going through this. This too shall pass. We got this mama ❤️
Resting today from the @thurgoodmarshallbarofficial Juneteenth celebration ❤️💚💛 (linked dress in my bio)
Happy Father’s Day to Dr. J, girl dad extraordinaire. 💗 The girls are crazy about daddy/dada 💗
100 days until baby # 3 joins this squad 💗 We’re really about to be a party of 5 late this summer/early this fall
Sun + water with the princesses. Watching these girls grow and learn is such a joy — some days I can’t believe I get to be their mom 💜☀️
A family that Crocs together, rocks together 💜 we made core memories today with swim lessons + summer fun. I remember dreaming of sharing a stable healthy family one day with someone, and now I’m living out an answered prayer. God is so kind to me 💜
I’m more dialed in to healing and rest in every area of my life than I’ve ever been. At 24 weeks (and some change) pregnant with the 3rd baby, healing and rest have never been more important!
If you’ve been resisting rest, don’t. This is your sign to take the rest and heal.
I’m really about to have 3 kids out here! As a mom of 2, I’ve realized and embraced that my kids shouldn’t be compared to each other. Parents often do this by using one child as the measuring stick for the others.
My girls are so different in so many ways. Raegan spoke much more words at Honor’s age. Does that mean I need to push Honor to measure up to her sister ? Honor learned to walk earlier than Raegan did, does that mean I need to remind Raegan of that? Do I dare compare intellect? Personalities? Interests? No, because each child develops at their own pace and each have their own gifts. It would be a shame to miss the special ways that God made my girls if I keep trying to make one child into another.
Comparison really is a thief of joy. If we aren’t watchful, we will be robbed of the joy found in each unique special child. With our third baby on the way in September, I can’t wait to meet and learn how special and unique Baby Jordan will be 💗 #babynumber3 #babyjordan
LA County Fair food: literally a pregnant woman’s dream! So much fun today with friends and my baby girls 💗
I told Raegan that Ms. Morgan @morgan_melissa is coming to visit us today and asked if she remembered her. Raegans squealed and said, “Of COURSE I do! She’s one of your friends from law school! And her mom always sends me cool gifts.”
And that is absolutely true. Morgan visited us today and we had such a good time catching up! Love you girl!! 💗💗💗
My heart is grieving with the parents and families of the 19 babies who were taken yesterday. 19 babies that were in the same grade and around the same age as my baby girl Raegan.
My baby girl finished 4th grade today, filled with joy and excitement for all that’s to come. She’s grown so much and is such a bright light in our life. Raegan and her sister are our world.
19 families lost their world yesterday, their babies who didn’t get to finish 4th grade. As a mother to a 4th grader, my heart is shattered for the mothers grieving the loss of their babies.
Whatever we are doing now, it’s not working. I’m not accepting this — something has to change. I cried. I prayed and I’ll keep praying, AND I’m also taking action to help end gun violence now — our children matter more than this. Enough is enough.
Attending the @unitedwayoc #wpfbreakfast this morning, featuring guest speaker and my daughter’s absolute favorite ballerina @mistyonpointe.
What an honor, and what encouragement. Hearing her share that vulnerability, honesty, and openness takes strength is the reminder my heart needed today. Brought Misty’s book “Bunheads” today for Raegan, so that I could get a “picture” with Misty!
It’s my 10th Mother’s Day, and it gets sweeter and sweeter every year. Happy Mother’s Day 💞
Date night look with the bump!
On a separate note, let’s talk about BOUNDARIES.
My closest friends know that boundaries are my heart’s song! I’ve learned that if I don’t put up boundaries in every area of my life, then I’m not personally walking in wisdom:
•Boundaries with my media platforms: I try to set a time where I can engage on platforms. Otherwise, algorithms and likes or dislikes would say I have to be online 24/7 doing all the things. I can’t and honestly won’t do all the things, because I’m a real person with real life obligations.😌
•Boundaries with my job: Being a full time attorney is demanding. To stay afloat, I have boundaries in place to protect my workload capacity (it looks like saying no to some things, being up front about what I can and can’t do, etc). 👩🏾💼
•Boundaries with my kids: I set a daily and weekly schedule that I work hard to maintain, including non-negotiable bedtimes for the most part. I also avoid feeling overstimulated, “touched out,” and playing and doing crafts when I’m not up for it sometimes (because I’ll then feel resentment). Also, my kids don’t run my life. I discuss the daily schedule I have in place over on my YouTube. 👨👩👧👧
•Boundaries with my husband: This isn’t something I hear much about, but it’s necessary for me. I think sometimes we feel the need to extend more ourselves — we work, care for kids, and then have to switch into wife mode. However, I need time to myself, for myself. I’m also careful to make sure my own identity doesn’t become wrapped up in my husband.👩🏽❤️👨🏾
•Boundaries with myself: I try to stick with my schedule, listen to my body and rest instead of pushing it right now, avoid watching violent movies and shows for my own mental health, limit or even eliminate certain interactions or social functions outside my capacity (or desire, no guilt tripping allowed right now), and try to focus on one thing at a time. 💆🏾♀️
•Once I put boundaries in place, and became pretty rigid about them, I could think more clearly and I became a healthier person for it!
Setting healthy boundaries changed my life!
A beautiful day with my beautiful children💗
Happy Easter from The Jordan’s! 🙌🏾 All Hail King Jesus, All Hail the Lord of Heaven and Earth, All Hail King Jesus, All Hail the Savior of the World! 🙌🏾
Last weekend, I felt like dressing up the bump. Today, I’m watching cooking shows and Veggie Tales, doing Easter crafts with my girls, and relaxing at home in my jammies. It’s called balance 🤷🏾♀️
Thank you so much for the love and support shown to our growing family! 💗💙 So many of you were around when it was just me and Raegan. Now we’ve grown to a family of 5 🥹Thank you for being with us through the years
Some days I feel like I’m killing it, other days I can’t remember a thing (thanks pregnancy brain 🫠). With every pregnancy I learn something in a new fresh way. This pregnancy is all about rest in the deepest sense, even resting in my inabilities.
Thanks for the sweet comments yesterday. ❤️ It’s been a really trying journey, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
I’m 26 weeks pregnant (or, in my 6th month), and frankly, this pregnancy is still kicking my butt.
My first trimester and part of my second trimester were filled with terrible morning (all day) sickness and severe fatigue. Once the morning sickness subsided, prenatal depression stormed in. After experiencing postpartum depression with Honor, it felt like I was thrown back into the fire, but this time it was hotter. Facing prenatal depression plus a high risk pregnancy (along with all my normal symptoms of swelling, hormonal acne, feet aches, etc.) makes for a very trying ride, but thankfully my family, friends, and job have been very understanding and supportive.
A few things that help me:
* Rest
* Prayer time/quiet time
* Cognitive behavioral therapy with a Christian therapist
* Pastoral counseling
* Sunlight
* Time spent near the ocean
* Movies with my children
* Creative outlets like filming and photography
* Forcing myself to be open and honest about how I’m feeling with my doctors
It’s been a while since I’ve been vulnerable in this space, but I know I’m not alone in feeling this way — I wanted to share my experience in support of other preggo mamas going through this. This too shall pass. We got this mama ❤️
Resting today from the @thurgoodmarshallbarofficial Juneteenth celebration ❤️💚💛 (linked dress in my bio)
